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所有的感觉：给父母搬家日的建议
我把大儿子高中的最后一年称为“最后一年”。 His last birthday at home. 这是他最后一次参加体育比赛。 他的最后一次舞会。 Each event felt heavy and I couldn’t help the sting of tears in my eyes. 的n of course came graduation and the seemingly contradictory feelings of joy and grief—joy at my son reaching the milestone; 他在家的日子屈指可数了。 I wanted to push pause on time to savor those final moments with everyone at home under the same roof. As I helped him shop for items for his dorm room, I put on a brave smile. As we loaded up the car with all his belongings, I forced myself to focus on his excitement. And as I gave him that one last hug before we drove away, I felt tears start to fall.
送孩子上大学不是一件容易的事——尤其是对父母的心来说！ Sometimes it feels like an emotional roller coaster. One moment we are celebrating all that our student has accomplished to get to this point, the next we feel grief over the fact that there’s an empty spot at the nightly dinner table. 的 launch of a child marks a significant transition, not only in a student’s life, but also for parents. 我们不应该对随之而来的情绪波动感到惊讶。
From one parent to another, here are a few things to consider as you anticipate dropping your student off to college this move-in day.
不要对所有的感觉感到惊讶
Don’t be surprised by the varying emotions that you feel as you prepare for move-in day. 当你看着你的学生为上大学做准备时，你会感到高兴和兴奋。 的re’s grief as you consider what life will be like without seeing your son or daughter every day. You may feel some uncertainty or worry as you think about the transition—for both yourself and your student. 给自己一些空间去感受这些东西。 Remember that no matter how heavy those emotions are, the Lord can bear them. Pray about them and seek His help as you navigate them. Remember too that as Creator, God designed us to develop in stages, so this season of transition into adulthood is a good season for your student. God is preparing him or her for how He will use them in His Kingdom. 你可以期待他做一些奇妙的事！
记住，你的学生也有自己的感受
When our children were little, they often looked to us to know how to respond to new situations. That’s why when they tripped and fell down, we’d smile and say, “You’re okay!” Today, as your student embarks on this new college adventure, remember that your son or daughter feels things too and needs your reassurance that they are ready for this change. Help them identify their own thoughts and feelings as they anticipate move-in day—their excitement as well as their worries and concerns. Remind them of God’s care for them; 无论他们去哪里，他都和他们在一起。
脾气的期望
入住和适应是一个繁忙的时间，有许多事件和活动。 的 college works hard to help your student to feel connected with other students and to learn about college life. While you may expect to have a leisurely time to say your goodbyes, your student may not have the same expectations. In fact, your student’s focus may be set on getting to know roommates or getting to the next activity on time. When parents temper their own expectations and hold them loosely, the move-in process is smoother for students.
给你的学生适应的空间
让你的告别充满感情和真诚，但要迅速而不是拖延。 Consider writing a note of encouragement that you leave in the dorm room for your student to read later. 然后给你的学生时间去适应大学生活的新鲜感。 Many on campus will recommend that students not go home for the first six weeks so that they spend that time developing friendships and participating in community life. But when you do see your student over that first break, expect to be amazed at all he or she has learned in such a short time!
毫无疑问，送一个学生上大学是一个很大的调整。 It’s a big change for parents. But remember, good things are happening on campus and in your student’s life.